Relations are one of the crucial and complex issues in human life. Man is a social animal and can’t live without society. This society is based on a massive network of relations between humans, animals, and various organisms as well as other ingredients. These relations can be structured to get positive humanitarian results. Let’s have some exciting insights into it…
Unnecessary disputes
As I feel talks, acts, and omissions which are exaggerating or encroaching on other person’s arena create the whole mess in relations. We can create some rules for ourselves or our families to avoid disputes amongst them. One must know that if he should talk in some particular situation, or is the act or omission he is willing to do for handling some dispute situation is really needed?
Many times taking cognizance of some unsure sources we start fighting each other. Instead of fighting, we should accept the reality of that person, may it be in the family, or incorporate it. Because situations and human behavior both the ingredients are out of our reach. Accepting the humans and situations around is the key to long-lasting, healthy relations. Of course, special kinds of training for it are required which can be modified as per individual requirements.
Societies of Humanity
The society living organisms is based on humanity. In all religions of the world, earth has given the status of the mother and all the entities living on it are seen as her children. All of the children have been given equal status and importance. Due to the natural instincts there exist bio-cycles in various aspects. The carnivores depend on food on herbivores, herbivores on plants, and so on… Nowadays this cycle is drastically disturbed, the effects of which are making us more vulnerable and cautious.
Coercive Living
The need for coercive living is one of the basic instincts of Human beings. Humans need coercive living to fulfill their physical, mental, emotional, and psychological needs. These are relations in various forms. These are Husband-wife, brother-sister, father-daughter, mother-son, etc. The corporate sector also needs such kind of coercive living but they are industry-specific and based on work hierarchy.
Non-blood relations
In most of the cases, it if found that non-blood relations last long. Basically, such relations do not initiate on the basis of caste, family, etc. There is always a strong connection point between such relations. These people come together because of the same hobby, or likings, or following whereas in blood relations there can be no such point in existence. Hence, such a relationship based on heirship can easily be broken down.
Bonding in student life
In any big city, you can see hundreds of students living together. They are bonded with each other as friends, students, and short time companions. In many such groups, you can see some good patterns of structured relationships. Many students make food on their own, which is not everyone’s cup of tea. Hence the chef cooks the food, someone provides him with onion cutting and allied activities, somebody wash dishes and somebody cleans the place.
Particularly, while studying administrative services, the boys living in the same room divide the tasks. One student studies history, someone by heart geography, and another someone more master’s other subject. Everybody then shares knowledge about the studies subject in a capsule. This is a nice example of structured relations.
Relations versus structure
There are increasing cases of disputes mostly amongst married couples. Mostly this is due to overburden on one partner, may it be economic, social, or personal. Most of the wives think that they cook food which is an additional burden on them. If both the spouses could divide this homely work and implement it sincerely, most of the disputes will vanish. We get caught up in relations and don’t take efforts to shape them in structures. Here I don’t mean static structure but relations with all privileges and voluntarily accepted responsibilities.
The honey bee model
The honey bee is a fascinating model to describe this phenomenon. You can take a close look at it. Except for the queen bee, there are different bees for different works. Their responsibilities are well defined and they never intersect or encroach in each other’s plane. This intersection or encroachment creates problems and disputes in any relation.
Decentralization is the key
In industries, the SOP’s are nothing but one form of structural relations. Every person’s job profile is fixed. SOP’s are given and everybody works accordingly taking responsibility. There is a minimal possibility for intersection or encroachment. A little of these two can ruin the whole picture, may it be family life or corporate life. One more thing, decentralization is the key for long term relations. Centralization of power gives room for suspicion in relations, which is enhanced by more and more suspicions, can go to any dangerous edge.
Human touch
Emotions are another key factor in structured relations. Physical and technical relations cannot hold long in the absence of human touch or emotions. Emotions are the bonding glue in human relations. Hence for human touch, in many multinationals, parties, picnics, get together are organized periodically. Unfortunately, such activities are lacking on the family level. Hence the rate of family disputes is increasing day by day. If you love and attach emotionally with your pets they surely give you fullest of them. The same principle is applied to the human race.
Cure for non-structured relations
Relations are one of the crucial and complex issues in human life. Man is a social animal and can’t live without society. This society is based on a massive network of relations between humans, animals, and various organisms as well as other ingredients. Most of these relations are by accident. If we can structure these relations this will help is our society, for social, cultural, industrial, political, and economic growth. This can also enhance the quality of our lives getting positive humanitarian results.
Avoid creating a cult
When more number of humans attach with each other, there is a danger of them emerging as a cult. A cult is nothing but brainless groups of humans. They are vibrant but having no brains, they are strong but without emotions. What we are viewing all over the country from the last decade is nothing but the clashes of various cults. An interesting thing is that these different cults have different points of view for the same incidence or matter. Many times these views are more in number than a number of existing edges or sides of the original matter.
A single post on social media recharges various people attached to some cult in a few minutes. These people are from a variety of places, educational-economic-social backgrounds, and many times living far away from each other. Enforcing and endorsing such a cult era nationwide is a thing one should really worry about.
Yes, it can be the way forward
Make relations, think, and react is the process or normal human being. In Cult the second phase of ‘think’ is missing because more emphasis is given on the ‘react’ factor. We should really be very careful not to pass this cult to the younger generations. In an era where more than 60 percent of the nation’s population is young, i.e. below 35 years of age, this drastic rise of the cult hood is a very dangerous one.
To all these youngsters we should show the right way forward for how to make relations, how to think, and how to react. So that they can create, cultivate, and grow structured relations, to shape, feel and smell like real human beings…